STRUGGLE & SUFFERING = GROWTH
No one likes to struggle and suffer, especially if you see it as this huge burden with the feeling of being stuck with no where to go. Our greatest “teacher” is learning what we go through in the process of struggling. I learned the true value of suffering through a natural self-examination exercise that we all go through when life deals us an unexpected ‘blow.
The first think I asked myself is why…why is this happening or why did this happen? Without delving too deep and getting too anal with my analysis, I needed to keep it simple. What decision did I make (the cause) to create this current condition (effect). The answer came and it was clear that even though at the time it appeared to be the best and somewhat justifiable decision, it clearly was the wrong decision and it proved to be near fatal.
This next step was going to be crucial because my decisions going forward would determine the timeline, in other words how long will it take me to ‘get out’ of this quagmire I’ve created and what is the best way forward.
Unfortunately, I made the decision to condemn myself as an evil human being, not worthy of much, and a loser. This put me out into the wilderness of life, where I wandered around much longer than I thought I would have to and also not realizing that even though I felt separated from all things, my condition(s) were still within my control but I just couldn’t find the steering wheel.
This is where the ‘teaching’ and the ‘learning’ from experience enters center stage. Since everything happens for a reason, that reason must reveal a life lesson to be learned. When a life lesson is learned, it’s like an ‘ah ha’ moment which then becomes “Growth” to your soul. This is why struggling and suffering is so important in life – no struggle, no growth! no suffering, no growth! The next time you find yourself struggling, rejoice and know that the best is yet to come!
I spent over a decade in the wilderness, and I suspect since I am not much different than everyone else when it comes to having feelings and emotions, I finally decided that my time of penance was up – the punishment (time spent in the wilderness) had fit the crime committed.
Hope, Faith, and Self-forgiveness
The process, once the initial ‘blow’ wears off a bit, begins with one word…HOPE. Hope doesn’t get the credit it deserves, but it is the only thing we have to grab onto when we have hit ‘rock bottom’. At this point we have a choice – do we choose PITY or do we choose HOPE? We can live without pity since it is a poor excuse for living, but without HOPE, we are sentenced to doom and gloom. So, embracing the truth of HOPE, we begin our grand ascent toward redemption and a new and better life! As we soar higher our HOPE turns to FAITH. Faith establishes a new belief and we begn to realize the value and need to forgive ourselves our own trespasses. FAITH is HOPE all grown up – you cannot become and adult without first being a child.
Forgive yourself and God will forgive you
So, Who Am I Now?
Before I answer this question, let me tell you what I have learned from this disastrous life experience of suffering. Suffering ‘forces’ you to take a good look at yourself. It ‘forces you to re-examine your entire life from a self-awareness perspective. So I spent the next 12 years of my life delving into the psychology of human behavior, the science of happiness and well-being, and the science of motivation and purpose. Through these intensive studies, I was able to answer or at least gain tremendous insight into life’s “wicked hard” questions: Who am I? Why am I here? Where am I from? Where am I going?
In the end, suffering benefits your growth more than any pleasure could ever accomplish. When you suffer, you grow and that growth can be without limitation. Embrace your suffering and you will “bounce back” higher and farther than you can ever imagine. Suffering = resilience + perseverance! It leads to an “unstoppable” life!
I AM NOW…
A Champion of your right to flourish – to Let Go of what’s holding you back and keeping you stuck.
A teacher. I teach you how to achieve Happiness & Peace in your life. I teach you how to have the confidence and self-esteem you deserve.
The catalyst that brings out the “Best” in you and helps unleash your potential.
An Inspirer of Truth and personal development.
A Builder of individual freedom.
Why Me?
After 30 years of working with business owners and hundreds of employees and people in general, despite my more than a decade of being ‘off the grid’ and ‘bouncing back’, through my passion of helping others excel in what they do, I am considered an “Expert” in my field – Leadership with an influence of Spirituality. I bring a unique blend of practical leadership insights and profound spiritual wisdom to help individuals like you unlock your fullest potential and lead a more fulfilling life. Here’s what’s in it for you:
- Holistic Approach: My coaching & mentoring goes beyond traditional leadership training by integrating spiritual principles, mindfulness practices, and personal growth techniques. This holistic approach ensures that you not only become a better leader but also cultivate inner peace and fulfillment.
- Transformational Growth: Through personalized coaching sessions, I guide you on a journey of self-discovery and transformation. You’ll uncover limiting beliefs, develop a deeper understanding of your purpose, and learn practical strategies to overcome challenges and achieve your goals.
- Authentic Servant Leadership: I believe that true leadership stems from authenticity, the desire to serve others, and alignment with your core values. By tapping into your spiritual essence and inner wisdom, you’ll learn to lead with authenticity, inspire others, and create positive change in your organization and community.
- Empowerment and Resilience: My coaching empowers you to navigate life’s ups and downs with grace and resilience. You’ll cultivate inner strength, emotional intelligence, and mindfulness practices to effectively manage stress, conflicts, and uncertainties in both professional and personal spheres.
- Lasting Impact: The skills and insights you gain through our coaching sessions extend far beyond the workplace. You’ll experience profound shifts in how you perceive yourself, relate to others, and approach life’s challenges, leading to long-lasting personal and professional fulfillment.
Ultimately, investing in Leadership & Spiritual Coaching with me isn’t just about enhancing your leadership skills—it’s about unlocking your true potential, finding purpose and meaning, and living a life of fulfillment and impact.
My Mission is a Mission of H.O.P.E. – Help One Person Everyday! This world needs better Leaders. It needs Great Leaders! Corruption has infiltrated the highest of offices and the majority of our world leaders are now corrupt! WE NEED CHANGE AT THE TOP! This is your opportunity to step up and become one of those Leaders. My mission is to help as many people as I can that have the desire to develop the skills they want and need as well as to unleash their ‘hidden’ potential to attain and realize their personal goals
The lack of developing your Leadership & Spiritual skills could be the difference between your current ‘job’ status and your dream ‘job’ or promotion. Working with a professional coach/mentor will produce the results you are looking for in up to half the time you’ll spend ‘going it alone’.
If you are looking for:
More Confidence and Self-esteem
- Authenticity and Self-Expression
Purpose and Meaning
- Unleashing your true potential
Personal Empowerment – self-leadership & competence
What you can expect: Together we will
- Build your “Foundation” – identify your core values
- Create/establish a “Growth Mindset” – abundance vs. scarcity; optimism vs. fear
- Develop the art of letting go
- Assess your current strengths and skills
- Reality check on current ‘life’ status
- Set short and long term goals – explore all options
- Develop a plan of action
- Implement the plan of action
- Review and adaptation with continuous communication as needed
- Assess progress, evaluate and adjust actions as agreed upon
Three Questions:
Have you Lived?
Have you Loved?
Have you Laughed?
Life is for LIVING, not just existing… you either get busy living or get busy dying ~ The Shawshank Redemption
Your answer is here, with me. I’m available when you’re available. I don’t give advice unless you ask for it specifically; this is a safe and non-judgmental environment, and chances are very high that I’ve been where you are now. It’s why I do what I do. I help people get their head straight. It’s a must and if we can’t do it on our own, we could use a mentor, objective friend, and coach until we can do it on our own. It’s very simple! and a good strategy for designing a better, more fulfilling life!
There is no expiration date on unleashing your hidden potential
and, there’s no better time than right now, today, to begin!
So What Does Good Coaching/Mentoring Look Like?
A great coach speeds up your evolution. You get results and attain your goals sooner because you stick to your goals and dreams and don’t get ‘sidetracked’. A coach keeps you committed.
Many people wrongly assume that coaching people is about having all the answers and being the most equipped person in the room. Oddly enough, the very opposite is true.
Many people progress through life, pursuing success. It’s useful to note that success isn’t gauged by wealth or control or social status, it’s measured by discipline, decisiveness, maturity and inner peace.
Our highest calling as human beings is to help people understand how unique each one of us is and that we all have something to create and offer.
Coaching people is about prompting people to reflect on accomplishing things they may not have previously thought possible. It is helping them to learn rather than teaching them.
The more responsibility we take for our lives and futures, the more empowered we become to take decisive action. The more empowered we are, the more likely we are to inspire positive change in other people.
Good coaching looks like subtly steering people in the direction they already want to travel and helping them take possession of a compelling vision for their future that spurs them to take action.
If you need and desire:
- Leadership or Self-leadership Training for yourself or for your people or children
- Clarifying your Purpose
- Reducing anxiety and stress so you can make better choices
- Realizing your true POTENTIAL
- To develop a better version of yourself
- Not sure what you WANT
- Develop your Soft Skills
Here are my “Founding Assumptions”
- Unconditional acceptance of all clients – there are no bad intentions; nonjudgmental
- Past does NOT = Future
- No one is broken
- Everything is possible
- Empowerment via responsibility
- My Goal: Add increase and advancement to your dreams/goals
We learn things in our formative years that stick with us. These are our limiting beliefs, the blocks that hold us back, and sometimes our excuses for not becoming who we should or want to be…
If it’s time to ‘unlearn’ your limiting beliefs, to ‘unclaim’ your baggage, hit the “Request a Call” button at the top of this page.
Thank you!
